In case it needs to be said, this is not just some provocative fluff designed to get clicks, it’s really worth a read.

Sure, there are plenty of important criticisms to be made: Why are we even talking about “having it all”? Doesn’t this perpetuate the anti-feminist stereotype of “sad white babies with mean feminist mommies”? Are the hard choices described here really only women’s choices? Why should normal folk even care about how hard it is to be an ambitious woman of superprivilege? Not to mention my personal pet peeve: does AMS really think that electing a woman president would itself cause - or even reflect - a society that’s ready to reinvent itself in the ways she recommends?

But if you get through the whole piece, you’ll see that she addresses, or at least acknowledges, most of the above.

I am unbelievably lucky not only to have experienced a flexible/virtual/progressive workplace early in my career, but also to have a husband who I trust completely as a true partner in every aspect of our life - and yet these challenges still haunt/worry me. 

Thank you, AMS & theatlantic, for igniting this dialogue.