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And approximately 5 mins later, it was in my belly. (Thanks to @marceduardleon via @zandrogynous for my new go-to menu adjustment.) #latelunch #sqirlla (at Sqirl Kitchen)

Complaining is the natural opera of New York. The arias spill out onto the streets, over tablecloth, between smartphones.

That’s all you get.

New York City doesn’t love you. Why would think you’re in a relationship with New York? It’s not a boyfriend or a parent. New York will never give you its approval because New York City is too busy being New York City to care about you.

New York’s indifference to your plight makes you strong. Fall to your knees and thank New York for making you strong.

New York doesn’t miss me. I don’t even think New York knows I’m
gone….

There are plenty of great reasons to live on the West Coast. Tacos. Fish tacos. I can spend my days literally staring directly into the warm Southern California sun.

New York doesn’t get jealous. New York doesn’t care about Los Angeles.

But I am starting to care. Just a teensy bit. I just wish more people out here on the fringe of our civilization would complain more about traffic, flip-flops, and kale.

You know, the fact that L.A. is universally despised by the rest of the country is almost endearing. New Yorkers love an underdog.

Or they should.

Don JeVore: New York City Doesn’t Love You 

As a native New Yorker who hasn’t had to survive living in the City as an adult, my love of NY is more innocent and nostalgic than this guy’s - and I’m lucky that NY and I have settled into a pretty functional open relationship - but, man, does he articulate some truth. 

If we truly want gender equality, we need to challenge the assumption that more is always better, and the assumption that men don’t suffer as much as women when they’re exhausted and have no time for family or fun. And we need to challenge those assumptions wherever we find them, both in the workplace and in the family.
Rosa Brooks, in Foreign Policy, on “Why ‘leaning in’ is killing us.” I don’t hate Sheryl Sandberg, but Brooks’ perspective is refreshing, and in citing the fact that we’ve begun to value ubiquity above all, she suggests something I’ve been thinking about a lot: can we be honest that “flexibility” is really just a coping mechanism for working too much, NOT the end-state we should desire. Who’s going to be our generation’s Henry Ford in an era of Sheryl Sandberg?